Know to no

I need to learn how to say no to people or situations that I don't want occurring around me. I mean, it's easy to say no to drugs and alcohol because well, that's just stupid; however, saying no to the people around you is an entirely different concept. I don't think I can adequately describe these sorts of situations without proper examples. Let's say an acquaintance asks you to borrow five dollars and you know that you're never going to see them again and that they're never going to return the money. Do you still give it to them? Well, I would. Why? Because I'm too passive. I'd condemn them in my mind but I would still hand over the money. Another example; let's say someone that never calls you, dials your phone number and starts a conversation (small talk; how are you? how is school?). It's inevitable that this conversation is going to end with them asking you for a favor or something of the equivalent. It's rather imminent they're pretending they care about your life for a mere 3 minutes and 14 seconds to get a ride back to school, homework answers, or a strip tease (just kidding on the last one, I charge for those; call me. I can see everyone burning their phones at the same time.. but really, I'm sure the world doesn't need to experience such repulsive behavior). I don't really mind if people that I actually care about ask me for favors because more often than not, these favors are reciprocated (this is a key component of friendship, don't be a crappy friend). But at the same time, if these rights are abused, you'll end up getting kicked out of the friend circle and tossed into the "oh it's that useless girl/guy that always uses me" circle. It's not a good place to be; I'm just saying. The problem is, even if they are useless, I can't bring myself to say no to them. What I really need to learn to do is say no to these useless people (like Teddy Roosevelt and his big stick theory. I'm a nerd, I know). Perhaps by doing so, they'll stop asking me for favors because they know I won't agree to do whatever they're asking of me. In a way, I envy the people that have the ability to make people do things upon command; however, at the same time those are the types of people that I can't stand (mostly because I'm the idiot that succumbs to their demands). I suppose the best solution is to find a balance between overly dominating and excessively compliant.

I'm putting more effort into this. Recently I've been trying harder to refuse to do what I don't want to do. Like when your mom called me last night, I told her no because I had to study for my midterm (okay, sorry that was unnecessary, but I couldn't pass that up). I don't know though, I find it easier to speak up for my friends in comparison to speaking up for myself. In that case, I should make more friends that will do the same.

By the way, Ghiradelli's toffee interlude is amazing.

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